More and more Indonesians are choosing to study abroad, especially for their university level education. Countries including Australia, Singapore, Malaysia and the United States are flooded with Indonesian students, each with their own living arrangements and different lifestyles. Some live economically, but some live in luxury.
University years, as many of us might already understand, are not just about learning academic subjects, writing essays and completing projects, but are also time for us to learn to grow up get used to the real world.
So it concerns me when I see some Indonesian students live in complete luxury while studying overseas. I can understand if their parents are rich enough to buy them an apartment or even a car, but these students are going to learn a hard lesson when they face the real world!
I remember when I studied overseas, some Indonesian students spent their weekends shopping for expensive brands. When they ran out of money, all they had to do was call their parents and ask them to transfer money. Couldn’t they arrange to get a working visa and get a part-time job instead? A job means new experiences, new friends and your OWN money that you don’t have to ask for from your parents.
University years are a time to grow up, be independent and learn how to survive in the big bad world. I understand if parents still pay their kid’s rent, school fees and other essential things, but seriously, if they want to purchase a Marc Jacobs bag or a ticket to watch football, they should earn the money themselves.
I plead guilty for doing a lot of shopping when I studied overseas, but at least it was my own hard-earned money. When your child is living in complete luxury while they’re supposed to be challenged, they’re not going to learn much.
Some Indonesians even refuse to socialize with locals or people from other cultural backgrounds, mainly because they don’t feel confident about their language skills. But aren’t you supposed to socialize with the locals in order to improve in a different language? This is just another example of students not willing to be challenged, even socially.
I understand that being in a different country is already intimidating, but these challenges are going to shape you to become a stronger, tougher, and a more independent person. This doesn’t just apply to students overseas, this should also be valid for university students all over the world. I hope students realize that once they finish school, they are on their way to adulthood, and during these times they’re not supposed to have an easy life. This is the time when young people should learn how to help their parents, and not the other way round.