The Thinker: Status Uncertain
Dewi Tjakrawinata | August 31, 2010
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393683ChrisH - don't be all too optimistic - my first marriage with an Indonesian lady was upon divorce a financial disaster for me - although I did have a very strong case too and good legal representation. I lost basically everything I worked for! Why? Just because I am a bule! Although it happened almost 10 years ago, so maybe the law might have changed to the better.
But, now, my second marriage is heaven on earth! So never give up and never surrender!
Good luck!
I can tell you from experience that as a bule they treat you like dirt here in the legal system. I am trying to divorce my indonesian wife, and I can get NOTHING DONE. A lawyer is now handling it, and he is having a lot of trouble as well, defending my VERY strong case. Mixed Marriage in Indonesia? NEVER again!
We in Indonesia, mix marriage family should have equally recognition by the law same as those marriages that consist both indonesian citizen. Indonesia is truly a multicultural, or culturally diverse, nation. We should look at the great sample from other countries, like Australia for example, that provide for all a clear conceptual basis for any foreigner who married to an Australian to live together in harmony, the right to equality of treatment and opportunity in the education system, in the workforce and in access to services. Broadminded lawmakers that fully care for its people are very much needed in a beautiful country Indonesia.
Good to bring this once again up!
An important point for all of us living here in a mixed marriage, women and men alike!
There should be a legal chance to obtain a permanent residency and the right to work within a certtain amount of years, when it is proven that the marriage is not a contract one but indeed a working relationship, most times with children! But given that the lawmakers are not able to pass any bills this still will need years and years of deliberation! How sad!
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When the plenary session of the House of Representatives failed to ratify the immigration bill on July 30, the women’s movement closely following the progress of this legislation was given new hope. It seems that both the government and the House were aware that the people’s aspirations, in particular those of women in mixed marriages, had not yet been accommodated.
Susan (not her real name), a foreigner, had to swallow a bitter pill when her beloved Indonesian husband had a stroke and was no longer able to work. The couple had met at a university in Yogyakarta, fell in love and got married.
They lived in the United States for two years during her husband’s studies, and then returned to Indonesia and raised a family.
Susan gave up a good career in the United States to follow her husband to Indonesia, where she had to be willing to become a housewife.
Indonesia’s immigration and labor system denies women like Susan a right to earn an income for their families, instead allowing them to live here but only “work” in social institutions as an unpaid volunteer.
Following her husband’s stroke, Susan eventually returned to her home country so that she could support her family and send her two teenage children to school.
The children, who for their whole lives had only known Indonesia as their home, had to adapt to a new way of life and Susan had to leave her husband.
Mireille (also not her real name), a French woman, has a no less tragic story. She met her husband, a singer in a club, married him and had two daughters.
Like Susan, Mireille was denied the opportunity to work, so she instead “illegally” gave lessons in French and cooking. Her husband was often unemployed and depressed, a condition that eventually made him abusive.
What started as verbal abuse later became physical — not only toward Mireille, but also the children.
Every time Mireille said she would leave him, her husband threatened to withdraw his sponsorship and swore he would not let her take the children.
Fear of losing her daughters and that something even worse would happen to them if she left led her to stay.
Rusmiah, who comes from Brebes, Central Java, tried her luck by going to work in Malaysia and working as a maid. She was fortunate to have a good boss who paid her well and even gave her an opportunity to learn to cook.
She met a plantation laborer from Cambodia in an English-language class, whom she eventually married.
They were a hard-working young couple that saved as much as they could to build a better future.
When Rusmiah became pregnant, she decided to return to Indonesia, with her husband planning to buy land to farm while Rusmiah would open a food stall in her village.
But because her husband was a foreigner, neither he nor Rusmiah were allowed to buy a rice field in their name.
He only had a tourist visa and had to leave Indonesia every 30 days.
The burden gradually ate up the savings of the young couple with a new baby and undermined Rusmiah’s health, leaving her unable to work.
The problems faced by these women could be solved if our country recognized the common concept of permanent residency, whereby a person is allowed to reside indefinitely within a country of which he or she is not a citizen.
The latest draft of the immigration bill would fail to solve the problems of these three women above.
The reason given by those discussing the bill as to why this concept of permanent residency cannot be accepted is because the immigration bill only deals with the entry and exit of people (Indonesians and foreigners) to and from the country.
In other countries, permanent residency is granted to immigrants who fulfill certain conditions. Can Indonesia not learn from other countries?
The women mentioned here are part of Indonesian families. The family is the natural and fundamental unit of society and is entitled to protection by society and the state, as stated in the Universal Declaration of Human Rights.
The UDHR holds that everyone has the right to work and to the free choice of employment. Is the declaration just meaningless rhetoric for us in Indonesia?
Dewi Tjakrawinata is a member of the International Rainbow Alliance (Aliansi Pelangi Antar Bangsa), a Jakarta-based organization working to ensure legal protection for Indonesian and foreign nationals and their families.
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